|11/2/2008 4:09 PM (GMT-04:00)|
nothing to do with the cure, but I will have to listen to some to make me calm.............
JUST back from a sporting jaunt with 2 of my 4 kids. and FUK FUK FUK, I hate small men(as in small worlded men) and I hate how we can fukn escape one coarch in particular who dislikes my son for WHATE#VER reason and fukn undermines his attempts to reach his goal of being selected for a higher rep team.
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|11/2/2008 6:32 PM (GMT-04:00)|
So sorry, my son was in baseball and the coach was a total prick. He freaking scared the kids and made them so nervous when they were playing to win the top spot in their division! Of course they lost and he freaked out! Not fun at all for them! I so wanted to tell him to blow it out his azz!!!
|11/2/2008 6:42 PM (GMT-04:00)|
i spat on my screen with laughter at the toilet remark...............so fukn true............
|11/2/2008 6:43 PM (GMT-04:00)|
OMG I was just about to write a welcome back post!
You are a really good Mum. I feel for you and your son. I was an anxiety ridden child myself and rightly or wrongly am conciously bringing my kids up to be non competitive. I am thinking of maybe martial arts of some sought for my son and dancing for my daughter. Oh what to do? I am not looking forward to what you are going through right now AT ALL. ((HUGS))
|11/2/2008 6:47 PM (GMT-04:00)|
non competative is great, but its his goal, not mine, and Ive told him that. I even threaten, if you are not having any fun, or getting anything good from it at all anymore, then im not taking you......... he does love it. he cant get enough. My sister is a tennis coach, and his father used to be golf pro, i guess its in his genes.
|11/2/2008 7:01 PM (GMT-04:00)|
At least where I live, a kid can join either the school team or an independent community-run team or perhaps the YMCA or similar organization.
|11/2/2008 7:11 PM (GMT-04:00)|
i guess the point of it is that its his goal, and im happy to help him achieve that (within reason) by driving him to most things, but Im not prepared to drag the whole family around for his dream, at their expense, and I want him to have a broarder life (which he does) rather than just his sport.
|11/2/2008 7:21 PM (GMT-04:00)|
Too bad the coach has to ruin it for him. :( Like I said, maybe there are other teams out there that he can play and have a coach who encourages him in his love for hockey. If he lives and breathes the sport, there is no doubt in my mind that he is good. Bottom line - find another team/coach.
My own son, now an adult, has lived and breathed team sports ever since he was a toddler. He's seeing the payoff now as he actually has much recognition and is making a living off of it. Believe me, your son will thank you for making it all possible for him, if this is the love of his life.
I know here there are many ice rinks that have their own teams apart from school teams. Perhaps there is something similar where you live and your son can find a good coach/team fit? A good coach can be invaluable to a kid's future.
btw...congratulations on him being first in English. I don't doubt that eventually he'll get the right recognition he deserves in sport as well.
|11/2/2008 7:27 PM (GMT-04:00)|
CureCatLady wrote:roberts_hairspray wrote:
i HOPE so, it really is everything to him, but I WILL pull the pin, if it doesnt stop reinforcing negative self feelings and underlining to him all the things he CANT do.
its field hockey he loves, and we all play, all 4 kids, and me. But he is the best. My next son down loves it too, and is also very good, but he does not have that drive and killer NEED to be selected and be recognised int hat way, hes happy for people to tell him good game, and know that he did well. Different kids.............
I have thought about changing, I have tried before, he wants to stay with his best mate. Tough chocie, cos I ALWAYS SAT ITS FOR FUN, AND ENJOYMENT AND THEN i SAY, YOU HAVE to get away from out from his shadow, and that coach and that club, and he says, "but they are my friends" but in the next breath cant see that he will never achieve what he wants unless he braks f\ree............ very hard, cos then i have to pick up the pieces when hes not selected - like this weekend.
very hard.. your sons story gives me hope though.
its such a small world to break into.. like mujsic i guess, but if you are a person who needs that arena, that recognition, those accalades................ then thats who you are.
i will keep helping him, WITHIN reason..........
|11/2/2008 7:34 PM (GMT-04:00)|
One of those sometimes no win situations? If it is his goal then all you can do is support hhim which it seems you are giving him in spades. A child knowing there parents are proud of them is so very important. Sorry for your heart break. Hope next weekend is better....
|11/3/2008 12:33 AM (GMT-04:00)|
we all want the best for our children,and when they are hurt we are hurting too.
|11/3/2008 3:21 AM (GMT-04:00)|
Hey Bron (roberts-hairspray),
I didn't know your dad was a golf pro. I guess that explains why your son feels like he has to live up to something. I had a horrible soccer (football) coach in high school. I don't even know how I made the team, because the coach hated me. His daughters were on the team, and he would always let the play at games while I sat on the benches feeling like a loser. I know how your son feels.
Then, I tried out the second year, and I didn't even make junior varsity soccer when I had played varsity the year before---same coach. So, I went to play in AYSO (American Youth Soccer Organization) that year, had a really great coach who took me under his wing, and I improved.
I think a good coach makes all the difference. I went and tried out my senior year of high school and got back on the soccer team; this time I had a different coach, who was also wonderful and taught me a lot about soccer. So, maybe you should complain about the coach or have a talk to him. I don't think it's fair when those jock-like coaches just pay attention to certain kids and don't hoan the skills of the other ones on the team. Some kids, like me, aren't naturally gifted at sports, but they can get better with a good coach. Sorry for the long post, but I just feel for your son. I initially joined the team too because two of my friends played soccer.
|11/3/2008 2:59 PM (GMT-04:00)|
T's father was a golf pro............ now in a different sporting industry.............
|11/3/2008 10:35 PM (GMT-04:00)|
Hope you are having a better day! Yes, this mother business can be difficult at times!! Sounds like you are a good one though,
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