You've been in a band (and kept it relatively together) for some years now... I need your advice... desperately.
There's a musician I work with, oh boy. Click. And the beauty of it? WE're like brother and sister. He's got a larger writing credit than mine, but my camera credit is bigger than his... but I digress. We get on like fire and ice.
This does not translate well in our interpersonal relationship. Oddly enough, following your example, he's my brother in law. We are both quite psychotic (by some measures...lol...) but control freaks at the same time. We are both drama QUEENS. (occupational hazard I suppose). We are also both unrequited, frustrated, creative icons.... hahaha... in our own minds.
We are now shouting nasty names in public places and behaving like absolute brats. People are saying "you're not my kin" anymore, and I'm kindof stepping back.
And turning to the one place that has never had that up and down... well, it has... but somehow has managed so with somewhat "grace"... under what must have been the hottest fire.
When you infect someone else with yourself... how do you control the output? Is there a throttle? I realize that maturity and communication are key... or are they?
Is it about keeping it childlike? knowing that tomorrow everyone will be happy again and return to playing in the sandbox... knowing that what they all went through made them stronger, happier, healthier people...that testing faith is the only way to prove it?
I realize these questions are rhetorical... just thought I'd share...